Do you have a good understanding of how your emotions may be triggered by certain situations or events in life? Can you control your feelings or are they liable to result in behaviour that you’d rather avoid?
Do you sometimes surprise yourself and react in ways that you hadn’t expected?
Your answers to these questions will go some way to assessing your level of emotional self-awareness.
This is one of the qualities that underpins emotional intelligence. In fact, it’s often considered as a starting point for someone wanting to grow their emotional intelligence. Your mastery of it can bring positive results to many aspects of your life.
Let’s take a closer look at what it all means…
Emotional intelligence (EI) or EQ as it’s sometimes termed (short for ‘emotional quotient’) is defined as:
“the ability to perceive emotions; to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought; to understand emotions and emotional knowledge; and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”
Emotional self-awareness is one of 26 qualities associated with emotional intelligence; and it’s the first one we look at here.
Growing awareness of your own emotions is one of the main foundations of being better able to control your own behaviour, be more aware of others, and to form the close bonds that lead to successful relationships.
If you are emotionally self-aware, you:
If you’re not able to instantly see the above qualities in yourself, don’t panic. Simply by being more aware of them in others, you’re expanding your awareness. This is a good first step.
Start looking for qualities associated with emotional self-awareness in others. For example, people who:
Don’t beat yourself up if you get stressed out easily or don’t currently enjoy the self-control, calmness, and self-confidence that emotionally aware people do.
Like all the qualities of emotional intelligence, you can work on it and improve it with practice.
Try some of the following simple activities to help you become more aware of your emotions:
These activities will help you to start thinking and acting with more emotional self-awareness.
While this may be difficult for some people at first, you’ll start to see the positive results in your life: being more in control, more self-confident, better able to handle difficult situations, and better able to form close bonds with others.
Become the leader you aspire to be
& make better decisions with
Actionable Strategies for Growing as a Person And a Professional